I wouldn't be the first the state that military life either destroys or strengthens a family. I'm not sure there's much room for middle ground. You either choose to make the most of the experience, or you let the inevitable hardships become a breeding ground for resentment. It's a choice.
I value our experiences as a military family, even if they are painful at times. While moving isn't abnormal for any family, I found myself growing resentment towards the military as I held a crying, grieving child that was accepting the reality that he was leaving the only home he's known. That resentment is too easy to embrace when your children are affected by military life.
As hard and sad as it is, I'm thankful for this move. These are the experiences that help strengthen the foundation of our family. Where we are going, none of us has lived. No one has an advantage. We are all new people in a new place. Strangers in a strange land. All the memories will be built together. I imagine it's hard to be the new kid in the family, and with this move none of us are new. And that is good. We all get to feel as if we are on equal footing.
Strength is also built in working together to remain healthy and optimistic as we are transient for a month. The first night we leave our home we'll sit around a campfire and TOGETHER reflect on the hard feelings that deeply affect each of us.
When we open the door to our new home, we'll do so with smiles on our face, TOGETHER....dreaming of the new life we'll share behind these four wall.
As we explore new places, new traditions, new friends we'll do so TOGETHER.....hopeful for new adventures.
The next few weeks will be difficult. I know I'll be drying my fair share of eyes, including my own.......but I won't give in to the resentment. I am thankful for new opportunities to solidify and strengthen who we are as a family.
I value our experiences as a military family, even if they are painful at times. While moving isn't abnormal for any family, I found myself growing resentment towards the military as I held a crying, grieving child that was accepting the reality that he was leaving the only home he's known. That resentment is too easy to embrace when your children are affected by military life.
As hard and sad as it is, I'm thankful for this move. These are the experiences that help strengthen the foundation of our family. Where we are going, none of us has lived. No one has an advantage. We are all new people in a new place. Strangers in a strange land. All the memories will be built together. I imagine it's hard to be the new kid in the family, and with this move none of us are new. And that is good. We all get to feel as if we are on equal footing.
Strength is also built in working together to remain healthy and optimistic as we are transient for a month. The first night we leave our home we'll sit around a campfire and TOGETHER reflect on the hard feelings that deeply affect each of us.
When we open the door to our new home, we'll do so with smiles on our face, TOGETHER....dreaming of the new life we'll share behind these four wall.
As we explore new places, new traditions, new friends we'll do so TOGETHER.....hopeful for new adventures.
The next few weeks will be difficult. I know I'll be drying my fair share of eyes, including my own.......but I won't give in to the resentment. I am thankful for new opportunities to solidify and strengthen who we are as a family.
No comments:
Post a Comment